Adult Relationship Patterns
48 statements about close relationships and the choices you make around them.
This questionnaire is inspired by Galit Atlas's six inner-child archetypes.
Before starting
Think about your usual feelings and behavior during the past six months. Consider close relationships with friends, family, or partners. Answer based on what has been true for you, rather than what you think should be true.
You can leave an item unanswered or choose N, U, or S. If a relevant situation happened and the statement was not true, choose 1. Do not guess about a situation you have not experienced.
For statements that say "this caregiver," think of one parent or childhood caregiver whose approval most affects your choices today. If nobody fits, choose N for those statements.
You may pause or skip any item.
Your report / Pilot 0.1
Your responses, in context
These are provisional descriptive averages, not diagnoses, percentiles, probabilities, or measures of childhood harm. A higher average means stronger endorsement of these particular statements. The six scores are not validated as equally comparable, so small differences between them are not reliable distinctions.
Questions for reflection
- Which answer would you most like to explain?
- In what situations does that pattern help you, and when does it create difficulty?
- Does it connect with an earlier experience, or does another explanation fit better?
- What would you like to respond to differently now?
Review all 48 responses
This exercise cannot identify a caregiver as the cause of a response. Current relationships, grief, health, culture, finances, and chosen caregiving duties can all affect answers. Discuss any pattern with context before drawing conclusions.